December 15, 2022 at 5:50 am #31953
I read about 30-60 minutes a day and do daily mind training typically twice a day(in the morning and before bed and anytime in between if I have can squeeze it)
I don’t really think about the words I speak before I say them much anymore but rather focus more on enthusiasm but I still find myself having mini blocks or mini stutters when speaking. I don’t know if its a matter of slowing my speech down(1-2 count pause kinda thing) which seems awfully long to wait or is there something else Im missing.
Any suggestions? Anyone?December 19, 2022 at 9:30 am #31969JavierModerator
Hi Damian. I haven’t heard you speak, so I’m just guessing. Those mini-blocks may be because you’re speaking too fast and without pausing every few words. Have you tried speaking slightly slower and with more pronounciation? Most PWS that I’ve coached speak way too fast, and that doesn’t help. They don’t even realise that they are fast speakers, because it’s the way they’ve been speaking all their lives. And there are a lot of people out there who speak too fast too anyway. But when we slow down just a bit, and use C-9, our speech not only gets more fluent, it makes us better speakers than 90% of the world.January 23, 2023 at 10:43 pm #32047
Thank you for the advice I will definitely try doing that. The other issue is that I have is the fear of speaking to large groups of people(say a meeting, wedding etc) and I realize the only way you can truly get good at public speaking is to practice actually doing it. I understand that there is a meeting here offered on a Saturday once a month or so but I work on Saturdays. I have thought of registering for Toast masters but I think that would be too overwhelming w my speech issue. I guess my question is are you aware of any other forum or group that perhaps could be small group practice?
Thank you JavierJanuary 24, 2023 at 7:29 am #32048JavierModerator
Public speaking, for most, is at the top of their list of high-pressured situations. So, if you decide to talk more and more in those situations without having mastered your Presured Speech Plan and Crutches, the chance of having bad incidents is going to be very high. If you are still a PWS, I would recommend you to focus first on masterinng this program until you become a PWSS. If you have to talk in very high-pressured situations like large groups of people, talk less (I’m not saying that you shouldn’t talk; I’m asking you to summarize) and do it making sure you are clearly using Crutches when needed, and your Pressured Speech Plan from the start of the conversation. This is how you will reduce to the minimum the chance of having bad incidents.
Then, once you become a PWSS, you will have to start focusing a lot more on expanding comfort zones (speaking a bit more in your high-pressure situations until eventually the anxiety will disappear).
Since you said that you are unable to attend to our SAM Meetings, you can always listen to the recordings of these meetings. There is always something you can learn from these meetings and the tips given.
And you should attend to our Crutch Practice sessions. These zre meetings that we have almost every day of the week. There is a host who is either a PWSS or a Coach, and we practice Crutches and speaking in small groups of people. All the attendees are either PWS or PWSS, so it is the perfect environment for you. You can check the calendar of these meetings by clicking on “Community” and then on “Crutch Practice Groups”. I hope you find these group meetings helpful!January 25, 2023 at 3:21 pm #32049
Once again thank you Javier for your insight. That make a lot of sense.
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